I got pretty fed up with looking for words to replace said because they weren’t sorted in a way I could easily use/find them for the right time. So I did some myself.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the victim into distrusting his or her own memory and perceptions. Gaslighting is an insidious form of abuse. It makes victims question the very instincts that they have counted on their whole lives, making them unsure of anything. Gaslighting makes it very likely that victims will believe whatever their abusers tell them regardless as to their own experience of the situation. Gaslighting often precedes other types of emotional and physical abuse because the victim of gaslighting is more likely to remain in other abusive situations as well.
The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1938 British play “Gas Light” wherein a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy using a variety of tricks causing her to question her own perceptions and sanity. Gas Light was made into a movie both in 1940 and 1944.
Gaslighting Techniques and Examples
There are numerous gaslighting techniques which can make gaslighting more difficult to identify. Gaslighting techniques are used to hide truths that the abuser doesn’t want the victim to realize. Gaslighting abuse can be perpetrated by either women or men.
“Withholding” is one gaslighting technique where the abuser feigns a lack of understanding, refuses to listen and declines sharing his emotions. Gaslighting examples of this would be:
“I’m not listening to that crap again tonight.”
“You’re just trying to confuse me.”
Another gaslighting technique is “countering,” where an abuser will vehemently call into question a victim’s memory in spite of the victim having remembered things correctly.
“Think about when you didn’t remember things correctly last time.”
“You thought that last time and you were wrong.”
These techniques throw the victim off the intended subject matter and make them question their own motivations and perceptions rather than the issue at hand.
It is then that the abuser will start to question the experiences, thoughts and opinions more globally through statements said in anger like:
“You see everything in the most negative way.”
“Well you obviously never believed in me then.”
“You have an overactive imagination.”
“Blocking” and “diverting” are gaslighting techniques whereby the abuser again changes the conversation from the subject matter to questioning the victim’s thoughts and controlling the conversation. Gaslighting examples of this include:
“I’m not going through that again.”
“Where did you get a crazy idea like that?”
“Quit bitching.”
“You’re hurting me on purpose.”
“Trivializing” is another way of gaslighting. It involves making the victim believe his or her thoughts or needs aren’t important, such as:
“You’re going to let something like that come between us?”
Abusive “forgetting” and “denial” can also be forms of gaslighting. In this technique, the abuser pretends to forget things that have really occurred; the abuser may also deny things like promises that have been made that are important to the victim. An abuser might say,
“What are you talking about?”
“I don’t have to take this.”
“You’re making that up.”
Some gaslighters will then mock the victim for their “wrongdoings” and “misperceptions.”
Gaslighting Psychology
The gaslighting techniques are used in conjunction to try to make the victim doubt their own thoughts, memories and actions. Soon the victim is scared to bring up any topic at all for fear they are “wrong” about it or don’t remember the situation correctly.
The worst gaslighters will even create situations that allow for the usage of gaslighting techniques. An example of this is taking the victim’s keys from the place where they are always left, making the victim think she has misplaced them. Then “helping” the victim with her “bad memory” find the keys.
Are You a Victim of Gaslighting Emotional Abuse?
According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting emotional abuse include:
You are constantly second-guessing yourself.
You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” a dozen times a day.
You often feel confused and even crazy at work.
You’re always apologizing to your mother, father, boyfriend, boss.
You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
You have trouble making simple decisions.
You have the sense that you used to be a very different person - more confident, more fun-loving, more relaxed.
You feel hopeless and joyless.
You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
You wonder if you are a “good enough” girlfriend/wife/employee/ friend; daughter.
You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
“…a division in the Galra Army that handles justice. Any traitors, deserters, or transgressors of the Empire will earn a place on their List… and an unmarked grave, assuming there’s anything left of their victims to bury.”
// y’all’s favorite mess is back with repairs in this here blog
I’ll be setting up a FAQs page for H.aggar buuuuuuut…. I am in need of questions anyone might have since I can’t come up with a whole lot on my own orz….
“ No chain of command is without its rust, Sendak. “ Her ever-observant gaze followed the commander to and fro, only peeling off when his movements ceased, drifting towards the far side of the room to focus on a null spot in silent contemplation. There were more pressing matters to attend to – there were always more important matters to attend to with their statuses in the Empire, but given the nature of the present circumstance, her oversight on the matter was a must to ensure no greater conflict would arise from this obvious negligence.
Besides, listening to the Commander of the Third Fleet vent his frustrations was a more favourable option than sifting through the reports justifying the almost-intrusion from the aforementioned officer.
Haggar’s lips crease into a frown, brow furrowed and a phantom of a sigh raising thin shoulders. Her eyes flicked back onto the fuming figure, and she tilted her head fractionally whilst she weighed her presented options.
“ While it is shameful to admit we have these infections in our ranks, so long as they perform up to standard and keep their heads down, I care not if they live or die. “ A pause. “ … something this one has failed to do. “
excuse me, excuse me attention please. i am desperately searching for some laid back ass plots and partners. i’m talking texts and chats and messaging back and forth bc yes we love our chars and our plot but we are just too damn busy or we can’t get in the right mindset to write something perfect rn. partners i can hc with in the middle of the night bc we have sO MANY IDEAS that may become a reality but there’s no rush for it. you know what i mean? like yes let’s start a para one day but while i put off writing (bc i’m lazy af or at work or you’re busy or dealing with life) let’s have them texting or a little gif chat or phone call. let’s start a dozen different plots and pairings (bc we always take on too many) and there’s no rush. let’s be scattered and start multiple paras at a time and some are long and some aren’t and it’s just no big deal. just something fun and relaxed where there’s no need to feel bad ab not having a ton of muse or time. am i making sense. come to me pls.
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MAIN.
AU.
TIMELINE.
(TBA).
The Huntress.
Before and during the events of Voltron: Legendary Defender. Generalized and may follow the events of the Obscure Watchdog verse.
Obscure Watchdog.
Long before being promoted into the position of royal advisor, a fresh-out-of-training Haggar was a Druid soldier amongst Galra warriors in the rising empire's armies. Can progress into The Huntress verse or divert into the Failure route.
Reap Your Woes.
Directly following the events of Season Two. Now without an Emperor and a destroyed fleet, the Galra must amass once again and leave no foe – whether traitor or Paladin – spared.
Failure.
Having been unable to rise in the established heirarchy, Haggar defects from the ranks rather than bring more shame onto herself, choosing instead to become a Freelancer for the highest bidder under her specialties.
Extinguished.
The Paladins have been defeated. The Galra Empire has won and Zarkon now has Voltron under his control, leaving the universe with no hope. Rebellions are dwindiling and every planet is free game with no one to defend them anymore.
ROBEAST #909
Having failed Zarkon and the Empire one too many times, the Creator becomes the Creation when the order to make a new Robeast against the Lions is given.
VERSE NAME.
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H-6199
Name: Haggar
Sex: Female
Origin: Sozuu 115
Race/Species: Galra - Forest Subspecies
Age: (???)
Height: 5’9
Weight: ~150 lbs.
Hair Colour: White
Eye Colour: Golden Yellow
Affiliation: Galra Empire, Druid Colonies, Cardinal Sigma O-54 Academy
Occupation: Zarkon’s Advisor, Overseer of the Druids, High Priestess of Rha’Oniscidea
Brief Backstory
Growing up as the eldest of four and left with the responsibility to raise three kits did not deter H-6199 from training towards public recognition. Graduating from the Academy and partaking in the Ceremonial Judgement tradition did not extinguish the flame of curiosity, either. H-6199 - now newly designated as Haggar - explored foreign worlds in search of further knowledge on how to develop her magick, studying and chronicling whatever piqued her interest in her self-imposed journey.
Nomadic life was soon not enough to sate her thirst for knowledge, leading her to enroll into the Galra Army as a lowly foot soldier whose only distinction was her innate magic and affinity for the scientific. Years, decades, centuries of process trickled by, and a steady rise into power and recognition earned the Druid her position in the Emperor’s favor as his trusted Advisor and Overseer of Quintessence.
… (TBA.)
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* Tentative information; may be subject to change.
